Like Ben Franklin Said Only Two Things Are Certain......

Recently I read that when approaching women as potential dating partners men will only approach  women they can picture themselves eventually making love with. I suppose I am naive but I found that a bit shocking. Certainly no woman I know focuses on that during a first date. We, truth be told, are much more practical and wondering more likely if this date will be more responsible and caring than the last jerk we were with. Perhaps though this is why so many of my first dating conversations have included some talk about their prostate and its condition. I wish I could tell you I was making this up but it is true. I think I have heard about more prostate conditions in the last six months than the local urologist and at least he can bill for the conversation.

It is a whole new dating world out there after fifty. At twenty your date wants to demonstrate how strong and tough he is. After fifty he seems to want a nurse. Many want to tell you they have the body of a thirty year old and could have a thirty year old woman  if they want but prefer someone my age for the "life experience" As the queen of many first dates lately I am left to ponder two things - first, what is wrong with being in all respects with a woman of my age and secondly, when I was younger and I thought men were just being my friends was I so dumb not to realize their real motives.  As someone who really likes the me of today vs the insecure twenty or thirty year old I was, I wonder if these guys really have as much of a grip on who they are as their female contemporaries.  Perhaps because so many of us a primary caregivers and have given birth, we are more in tune with the life cycle.

In the end after all isn't is at all about death? Women for the most part seem to grasp the reality that they will die someday. For our male counterparts that reality is much more of a struggle. So I continue to move forward in this journey and maybe will meet a man who knows he's going to die. Now that would be a catch!